A man that can regulate his emotions, be strong and true to himself, whilst keeping an open heart, provides the ultimate safety and pleasure for a woman She knows she can relax and be herself in his presence. If she’s upset he can hold a nurturing space for her. She can trust him. He sees disagreements as a valuable signal for where more closeness can be created, through listening and understanding He has the humility to apologise for any shortcomings on his behalf and take full accountability for his actions If his partner is disrespectful, he can lay a boundary firmly. Whilst keeping the intention for peace and connection. He’s not a pleaser, or a mat for her to walk on This balance between his masculine and feminine energy, creates the highest level of attraction that a healthy feminine woman can experience 🔥 If you’re a man or woman and you want to make your relationship healthier, I’m super excited to let you know that the Unity Program will help you to do this to a profound level 🌎 Suitable for single people who want to learn and attract a healthier partner ❤️ The Unity program guides you through trauma healing, relationship dynamics, communication skills, and more. The aim is simple: bring more love, connection and joy into your life ✨ 🌟 HALF PRICE EARLY BIRD TICKETS ARE ON SALE 🌟 Click the link on my profile page to get the details and sign up #man #men #masculino #masculinity #masculino #woman #divinemasculine #feminine #feminism #relationships #relationshipgoals #couple #couplegoals #toxicrelationships #toxicmasculinity #trauma #healing #marriage #married #therapy #psychology #innerchild #Love #selflove #emotional #california #nyc #dubai #india #asian #arab
Who plays the anxious or the avoidant role is interchangeable between genders. One person feels abandoned + unseen, one person feels suffocated + unappreciated. One person ends up demanding more closeness (criticism), one person ends up wanting to run away (stonewalling). Both are coming from the same childhood injuries of emotional neglect. It’s only their way of coping with those injuries, that differ. Both are unaware that they are holding their partner responsible for their own childhood trauma. The anxious person believes they will feel whole when their partner becomes available and loving. The avoidant often believes nothing is wrong with them, and their partner is the cause of their unhappiness. Both are wrong. Both will re-create this cycle through each other, or through a new partner, until they heal. ❤️ If you relate to these dynamics, then Im super excited to invite you to the Unity Program which begins on January 5th 2025 🌎 This is for you if you seek profound healing from the trauma in you that causes you to feel neglected, angry, and unappreciated. The result: You feel more love, more peace, and more joy within your own body, more consistently. Regardless of what your partner does or doesn’t do ✨ This isn’t about getting your partner to change, or even trying to save a relationship. This is about YOU, learning to be the source of your own safety and appreciation. Once your energy becomes more loving, the chances of a loving close connection raises dramatically in a relationship. Your partner may join you in the healing journey. Or you may realign with a suitable match if they don’t do the work. Either way, the suffering that lives in you begins to slow down and stop 🌟 Early bird HALF PRICE tickets for the Unity Program are on sale for one more day 🌟 click the link on my profile page to secure your ticket now #relationships #relationshipgoals #couple #couplegoals #marriage #married #avoidantattachment #men #masculinity #women #feminine #Love #selflove #innerchild #trauma #emotions #healing #innerpeace #spiritual #dating #anxiety #california #losangeles #nyc #asian #arab #fempreneur #success #happiness
The reason that many relationships lose passion, or turn bitter, is because both partners don’t have a deep enough understanding of who their partner actually IS at their core. As a result, you take your partner’s wounded behaviors as personal attacks on you. Without an intimate understanding of your own trauma responses, you certainly won’t understand your partner’s responses. You will blame them, and feel that they are withholding from you what you need in order to feel loved. You will believe they have deliberately chosen to harm you. You will then experience the heartbreak of your own childhood traumas and beliefs, believing that your partner is the cause. This creates a terrible cycle of pain for both people, who are deeply mistaken in their perception. The only person on this Earth that can make you feel whole, loving and safe, is you. (obviously this doesn’t apply to situations of physical and verbal abuse, but to the wide range of relationship conflict) ❤️ In just 2 weeks the Unity Program begins 🌎 A life changing healing program held online for anyone who wants to understand themselves at a very deep level, in order to free themselves from sadness, resentment and feeling alone ✨ A program that will help you to bring more love, connection and peace into your relationship. Through deep understanding and healing conversations. Or to attract a more suitable partner ☀️ Click the link on my profile page to learn more and sign up #relationships #relationshipgoals #couple #couplegoals #marriage #married #man #masculinity #women #feminine #Love #selflove #innerchild #trauma #emotions #healing #innerpeace #spiritual #dating #california #losangeles #nyc #asian #arab #avoidantattachment #anxiety #happiness
Both partners should be making their best effort to speak to one another with care, with respect. Being triggered and getting stressed will happen. But how you process that stress, is the difference between healing, and hurting your relationship. Do you take the time to look inward, or do you project your harmful emotions onto your partner? The anger of a man is far more damaging than that of a woman. And every woman’s body has thousands of years worth of memory in it, of the many ways in which men have hurt women. This presents men with a beautiful opportunity to heal not only themselves, but also their woman. She craves his strong but tender presence. Deep down, this is also what will fulfill him. To be a man that is balanced. Relaxed but driven. Kind but also capable. Passionate and also playful. We’re in an age where we get to undo the toxic patterns of our past, through emotional healing and connection. To build healthier, more joyful and more fulfilling relationships. With lasting trust, attraction, and connection. ❤️If you’re interested in experiencing this in your own life, you must join the Unity Program, which begins this Sunday 5th January 2025 🌎An online space welcoming all who want their life to change for the better 🌟 Click the link on my profile page to learn more and secure your ticket now 🌟 #relationships #relationshipgoals #couple #men #fatherwound #narcissist #narcissism #masculine #Love #selflove #trauma #MentalHealth #masculinity #woman #anxiety #stress #dating #marriage #innerchild #peace #happiness #la #nyc #newyork #losangeles #california #dubai #asian #arab #hongkong
Most men bury their emotions of inadequacy under hard work, trying to use success to feel better about themselves. This normally happens without him even realising it. “More money more problems” is a reflection of trauma, not reality. The void within simply becomes louder. Or, they turn to addictions, TV, video games, smoking, and any other escapism. The stronger his childhood grief, the more easily he is triggered by his woman’s words. Instead of being her protector, he begins to destroy both the relationship and her. He twists and turns every situation through the lens of his trauma: “I am a victim, I am being wronged” and his body is overrun with all the unhealed emotions of his past. He sees red, and thinks the woman who loves him, is the cause. A tragedy. When a man heals, he becomes magnificent. Now he has both the masculine qualities of drive and tenacity, but is also balanced with the feminine qualities of empathy, kindness, sensitivity. Only in this energy can he become a source of love and safety for his woman and his family ❤️🌎 ❤️ If you’re a man or woman who relates to this and you want life altering healing, please join us in the upcoming Unity Program. ✨ It begins in January 2025 and is a safe space for all who want profound healing from their wounds. So you can become more peaceful, loving and connected with other people. Both in relationships and in life. The goal is simple: create more beautiful connections, more unity. 🌟 Half price tickets are on sale until this Sunday only 🌟 click the link on my profile page now to secure yours and learn more about this offering #man #emotions #masculinity #masculine #divinefeminine #divinemasculine #relationships #relationshipgoals #couple #couplegoals #Love #selflove #trauma #healing #marriage #innerpeace #innerchild #dating #datingadvice #fatherwound #woman #feminine #feminism #california #losangeles #nyc #asian #arab #kuwait #innerchild
Today I tried a fresh approach. I want more men to feel receptive to the message of healing. Without feeling like they’re a bad person. At the core of every human is an innocence and a love that can be uncovered, if they want it. Most men placed their father on a pedestal as a child. This means they didn’t question the criticism and lack of emotional warmth they got from their dad. Instead, they repressed it, forgot about it, and normalized it. Their personality became a reaction to the expectations and criticism that they endured. “If I achieve more, it means Im finally enough”. “If I prove her wrong, it means I don’t have to feel the unhealed shame within me”. By the time they become adults its been so long since they felt their emotions, they may have even forgotten how to feel. They communicate mainly through logic. And are oblivious to the rage and sadness that will keep bubbling up from inside them, until they heal. This is destructive for their happiness and their relationships, as they are caged in a prison of trauma, denial, and chasing external validation to soothe themselves from the unhealed pain within. ❤️ If you’re a man or woman who relates to this, and you want profound healing from your emotional wounds, then I’m super excited to invite you to the upcoming Unity Program 🌎 A special space for you to experience love, safety, and peace in your body. And to learn how to communicate with your partner in a way that heals you both ✨ 🌟 It begins in January, and half price tickets are available until 8th December on my website 🌟 Click the link on my profile page to get the details and sign up if you are looking for genuine healing #man #men #masculinity #masculino #masculine #divinefeminine #divinemasculine #relationships #relationshipgoals #couple #couplegoals #Love #selflove #trauma #healing #marriage #father #innerchild #dating #datingadvice #fatherwound #woman #feminine #feminism #california #losangeles #nyc #asian #arab #kuwait
The avoidant attachment style can happen in both men and women. But in men it tends to be more brutal. This is because the childhood injury of detaching from your emotions, combines with the already existing generational trauma of men which encourages them to numb their emotions and see them as weak. The result can be a man who has hardened so deeply into his mind, that he sees everything through the lens of logic. In every situation someone must be wrong and right, bad or good. This is catastrophic for relationships as he picks his partner’s feelings apart, instead of FEELING and being with her in presence. Which is all that’s needed for connection to flourish. His agenda is to defend himself so he can feel “right” either by arguing, or leaving the conversation. Furthermore, the rage and sadness he felt as a boy from having no emotional intimacy, will be projected onto her. He lives in avoidance of this, preferring to get lost in his tasks, work, achievements, or entertainment. Anything but looking within. ❤️ If you’re a man or woman who wants profound healing from this wound, I’m super excited to invite you to the Unity Program 🌎 A safe space for you to go deep with me and unpack the events and beliefs that have driven you to avoid your own emotions, and therefore dismiss and misunderstand the emotions of others. The result: more joy, connection, and peace in your life ✨ 🌟 Half price early bird tickets are on sale until 8th of December 🌟 click the link on my profile page to learn more #man #men #masculinity #masculino #masculine #divinefeminine #divinemasculine #relationships #relationshipgoals #couple #couplegoals #Love #selflove #trauma #healing #marriage #innerpeace #innerchild #dating #datingadvice #avoidantattachment #woman #feminine #therapy #california #losangeles #nyc #asian #arab #kuwait
Signs of a wounded man: - His happiness is in his work, which most of his energy goes into. If he were to stop chasing it, he would be left with how he feels about himself deep down: inadequate - He can’t have disagreements without becoming angry and defensive. His inner pain always shows up as him feeling like a victim. Genuine peace, and resolving differences in a mature and loving way, is a rarity. Women need to understand that if they are with this type of man, there is an equal and opposite wound in you that brought you here. For example having an emotionally distant, or abusive father. You were simply attracted to what is familiar to your earliest memories. The solution then, is not in trying to change your partner. But in healing yourself. To such a profound extent, that you’re no longer triggered by your partner’s trauma. You’re able to feel loving and centred within yourself. And from this energy, new behaviours and decisions arise from you that align you with a much more joyful life. If both partners decide to heal, then something beautiful and deeply connected can blossom 🌺 ❤️ The Unity program begins in January 2025, and is for you if you’re seeking life changing healing and connection. 🌎 The program will help you to bring more love, more joy, more depth, more conflict resolution, into your relationship 🌟 Early bird half price tickets are available at £400 for only 3 more days 🌟 Click the link on my profile page to learn more and sign up #man #men #masculinity #masculine #divinefeminine #divinemasculine #relationships #relationshipgoals #couple #couplegoals #Love #selflove #trauma #healing #marriage #innerpeace #innerchild #dating #datingadvice #fatherwound #woman #feminine #entrepreneur #california #losangeles #nyc #asian #arab #kuwait
The inability to listen to her words openly, and FEEL into her emotions calmly, is a reflection of his trauma Like many men, he was taught that his worth is in his performances. Not in his feelings. So he disowned his emotions long ago A woman’s natural flowing emotions will then feel repulsive, threatening, or unrelatable to him. Which destroys the relationship as she feels increasingly drained from pouring love into him, whilst remaining unseen and unappreciated As a man reclaims his emotional intelligence, he sees his woman in a completely new way. He senses her love easily even in disagreements, and therefore doesn’t get defensive often. His agenda is no longer to “be right”, but to do everything in his power to protect the emotionally safe space that nurtures them both. The relationship shifts from a cage to a sanctuary of love and connection ❤️ ✨ Are you a man or a woman who relates to this, and is seeking deep healing to bring love and peace into your relationship? If so, Im super excited to invite you to the Unity Program 🌎 A safe space welcoming singles and couples, for profound healing and learning phenomenal communication skills that can heal you and your partner 🌟Half price early bird tickets are on sale now🌟click the link on my profile page to learn more and sign up ☀️ The Unity Program offers life altering healing to anyone who wants it #man #men #masculinity #masculino #masculine #divinemasculine #relationships #relationshipgoals #woman #women #feminine #divinefeminine #couple #couplegoals #marriage #husband #therapy #Love #selflove #trauma #healing #innerpeace #peace #father #innerchild #emotional #california #losangeles #nyc #asian
When a man can’t FEEL his woman, he uses his logic to analyse her feelings, which can only misunderstand her message. He looks for a solution, or formulates who is right or wrong, which hurts the connection as these are masculine ways of relating. This is like holding a sword out and asking her to hold the blade expecting connection: he only cuts her further more deeply as he analyzes and thinks more. The reason he is in his head and not his heart, is purely due to trauma. It is the heart that opens the feminine dimension in him. It’s his heart that allows him to feel her, to see her in her heart. But his mind will only dissect her heart. When he finally decides to heal and reclaim his emotional intelligence, everything improves on a profound level ✨ It is incredibly fulfilling for a man to sense the energy of his woman, and respond with love to deepen their connection A man must also have his own boundaries and expect respect and care. But a healed man never lets things spiral into anger and arguments. He holds a safe space. ❤️If you’re a man or woman who wants life changing healing and relationship skills, I invite you to the exciting Unity Program 🌎 (online) Open to couples and singles all around the world (your partner enters for free if you’re in a committed relationship) ☀️ It begins in January and offers you powerful guidance to deepen the connection in your relationships. Click the link on my profile page to learn the details and sign up ☀️ #man #men #masculinity #masculine #divinefeminine #divinemasculine #relationships #relationshipgoals #couple #couplegoals #Love #selflove #trauma #healing #marriage #innerpeace #innerchild #dating #datingadvice #entrepreneur #woman #feminine #feminism #california #losangeles #nyc #asian #arab #kuwait #china
Signs of the wounded career chaser (can be a woman too): - Their achievements or status give them their identity. Without this, they would feel like they’re not enough. What they do in the world isn’t truly out of love, but a need for recognition and importance - They can’t sit with you and be present, depriving you of connection. They’re always thinking about the next task. Enjoying each other’s presence is a rarity. - They can’t see your point of view, and often become angry, or shut down when there is disagreement. Peaceful resolutions are so rare, that you mostly have to walk on egg shells around them. You don’t live in emotional safety - They’re hardly ever at peace, always wanting something more than what they have - There is a seriousness about them, and little playfulness ❤️ If this speaks to you and you want to bring more happiness into yourself, and more love into your relationship, then you must join the upcoming Unity Program which begins January 2025 🌎 A powerful online space welcoming couples and singles from around the world who want to bring more depth and joy into their relationship 🌺 You will experience profound healing of your traumas. And learn methods of understanding yourself and your partner on a level that brings beauty and closeness into your bond 🌺 Click the link on my profile page to learn the details and sign up #man #men #masculinity #masculine #divinefeminine #divinemasculine #relationships #relationshipgoals #couple #couplegoals #Love #selflove #trauma #healing #marriage #innerpeace #innerchild #dating #entrepreneur #success #woman #feminine #feminism #california #losangeles #nyc #asian #arab #kuwait #work
Let’s say your partner says that they feel you’re not present enough with them, or they want more from you in some way. When we respond in a defensive way, it’s almost always linked to our childhood trauma. Our unmet needs for praise, warmth, respect and acceptance get triggered. We feel the shame or anger that we felt in our early years from a parent who wasn’t able to give us what we needed. When a human being is in state of wholeness (internally calm and feeling adequate within themselves) then almost nothing that anyone says can trigger them into a defence. That’s because there is no percieved sense of lack inside of themselves, that they’re trying to defend themselves from, and deflect onto you. They feel loved and regulated within themselves regardless of anyone disagreeing with them, or suggesting they can be better at something. ❤️ This internal sense of safety is absolutely vital in order for anyone to truly listen, understand, and care for another person. It means you can respond with love, and not react from trauma ❤️ If this speaks to you and you wish to experience true healing to bring more love, connection and peace into your relationship ✨ Then I invite you to the Unity Program which begins in January 2025. See full details of this profound experience on www.ehsun.co.uk ✨ 🌟There are currently a limited number of early bird half price tickets available 🌟write to us on contact@ehsun.co.uk to claim yours #Love #selflove #relationships #relationshipgoals #couple #couplegoals #marriage #feminine #masculine #trauma #innerpeace #innerchild #intimacy #emotional #husband #wife #therapy #psychology #dating #happy #healing #spiritual #california #asian #india #nyc #delhi #mumbai #losangeles
When he’s unable to receive constructive feedback or even factual observations without becoming defensive, it becomes extremely painful for you as his partner (or family member) to live with him. An emotionally self absorbed person may be an excellent financial provider and career supporter. They may be intelligent and charming. But without emotional safety, they’re toxic to you. There are 2 main things at play: your level of healing, and his level of healing. 1. The more you heal, the less you’ll feel devastated, invalidated, or desperate for him to see you. With enough practice you can become calm even in the face of his toxicity. 2. He must want to create peace and love within himself. Without this, he will blame you as the cause of his unstable emotions. He won’t take responsibility for his own actions and feelings The more he heals, the more he’s able to hear you without becoming triggered. He can actually feel your energy, and lovingly give you the safety and kind response that will nourish your heart ❤️ 🌎 If you’re a man or woman seeking life changing healing to live a more loving, peaceful, and connected life, please join us in the powerful Unity Program ☀️ Begins next week. Use the link on my profile page to learn more and sign up #man #men #masculinity #masculine #divinefeminine #divinemasculine #relationships #relationshipgoals #couple #couplegoals #Love #selflove #trauma #healing #marriage #innerpeace #innerchild #dating #father #fatherwound #woman #feminine #feminism #california #losangeles #nyc #asian #arab #kuwait
Signs of a wounded woman: - Empath / people pleaser. More concerned with monitoring the feelings of others, than feeling safe in her own body. Wants to fix or change troubled men - Seeks validation through her career, or her looks. Achievements, designer clothing, and her sexuality, act as armour to cover the painful void within. They keep her chasing the next dopamine high - She is guarded and masculinised. She sometimes attracts the passive, feminised man who will not call her out on her stressful and controlling ways. She fears being vulnerable and honest about her deepest feelings Deep down, most women want to experience one thing: the flow of love ❤️ A house full of love, or a day in nature, fulfills her a million times more than any designer bag or career milestone ever could. But this won’t happen if there are parts of you that constantly seek chaos, and feel unworthy of respect and peace. You will go on manifesting heartbreak and exhaustion. Instead of welcoming respect, deep connection and affection. ❤️ If you’re a woman or a man and this post speaks to you, I am inviting you to the life changing Unity Program 🌎 A safe space for singles and couples to experience profound inner child healing. So that you can release the parts of you that chase chaos. And begin experiencing love, peace, and safety within your own body ✨ 🌟 Half price early bird tickets available until December 8th 🌟 ☀️ Use the link on my profile page to learn more and sign up to this special journey with me #Love #selflove #relationships #women #relationshipgoals #Relationship #woman #feminine #feminism #men #masculinity #marriage #married #therapy #psychology #innerpeace #divinefeminine #innerchild #peace #healing #happiness #fempreneur #womenempowerment #emotional #dating #trauma #couple #asian #marriage #california #nyc
In any relationship, the ability to stay OPEN, calm, and mature is vital to keep the connection fresh ❤️ Love can only flow from an open heart, not a closed fist If both can remain at least half open, there is space for feeling like a TEAM, and staying connected as one, through honest and respectful communication Those who are wounded, will clench their fist and want to retaliate, rather than repair. They look to compete, not co-operate Some people simply shut down and feel numb, because they never learned to feel and process their emotions as a child. Though they may not intend to do damage, they still do so by rendering the relationship empty of the free flow of love ❤️ If you’re a person who relates to this, then I’m so excited to invite you to the Unity Program, beginning January 2025 ✨ 🌎 A profound and safe space for you to heal with me and learn excellent communication skills. So that you can turn conflict into connection 👩❤️💋👨 Learn to remove large amounts of trauma so that you can bring more LOVE, peace, and stability into your relationships. If you’re single, learn to attract a more loving and compatable partner 🌟 EARLY BIRD HALF PRICE TICKETS ARE ON SALE 🌟for a limited time only. Click the link on my profile page to secure yours now 🎟️ #Love #selflove #communication #relationships #relationshipgoals #couple #couplegoals #marriage #married #trauma #innerchild #narcissist #silenttreatment #abuse #happiness #parenting #man #men #woman #women #dating #datingadvice #anxiety #stress #MentalHealth #california #nyc #london #mumbai #tokyo
Connection requires you to FEEL your partner. Not just intellectually communicate with them. Then, you can go beyond the surface. Only through feeling their presence, can you truly touch them. You intuitively understand how they want to be loved, and what it is they need. Your words and actions carry a loving energy that sees through their struggle, confusion or upset. Their wellbeing is a priority to you. There is a felt oneness between you. But trauma drives you into distancing from them. Seeing them as an opponent who is victimising you. You then want to prove them wrong, to replenish your neglected sense of self. You do this through criticism, anger, or shutting down. When you go into self preservation through these defence mechanisms, you begin destroying your connection to them. Whilst blaming them for your own repetitive unhealed feelings. It is not them that have victimised you, but the wounded programs that operate in your mind. (Unless of course they’ve abused / cheated on you) ❤️ If you relate to this, and you want profound healing, then I’m excited to invite you to the Unity Program 🌎 ✨ A life changing safe space for singles and couples to heal the deep wounds that cause disconnect and drama. So you can become more loving, more peaceful, and more connected with yourself and with others. 🌟 Early bird half price tickets are on sale until December 8th 🌟click the link on my profile page to learn more and join us #relationships #relationshipgoals #couple #couplegoals #marriage #married #man #men #masculino #women #feminine #Love #selflove #innerchild #trauma #emotions #healing #innerpeace #spiritual #dating #california #losangeles #nyc #asian #arab #success #datingadvice
Most people live in total unawareness that they are carrying sadness or rage from their early life experiences (childhood trauma) If you disagree with them over small things, mention how they could love you better, or don’t meet their expectations in some way, then their repressed trauma will be projected onto you as arguments, denial, rage, withdrawal, or grief They become like a brick wall, where they stand their ground in order to feel “right”. They can’t understand your perspective, and begin to spiral into their own unhealed emotions The ability to peacefully and maturely communicate, and take accountability for ones own behaviors and limitations, without withholding love and playing games to punish the other, is the hallmark of a healthy relationship ❤️ Unawareness of unhealed trauma also shows up in life as: - Neediness and people pleasing in relationships, walking on egg shells - Gaslighting and cheating - Parents who are controlling, critical or rageful toward their children - The stressed out career chaser who needs validation in order to feel good enough, but can’t relax and enjoy the beauty of life - Confused or unmotivated person who indulges in smoking, drinking, TV and other forms of escapism ❤️ If you are a person who seeks life changing healing to bring more love, peace, and connection into your relationship, Im very excited to invite you to the Unity Program which begins in January 2025 🌎 🌟HALF PRICE EARLY BIRD TICKETS ARE ON SALE 🌟 Click the link on my profile page to get the details and sign up #relationships #relationshipgoals #couple #couplegoals #Love #selflove #dating #datingadvice #marriage #trauma #innerpeace #narcissist #healing #MentalHealth #family #wife #husband #Relationship #happiness #spiritual #success #psychology